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An article at Huffington Post made me think about the issue of female empowerment and the sex trade. I go back and forth over whether stripping, The Bunny Ranch, and so forth is really a sign of progress in the paternalistic state or whether because we live in a paternalistic state that any occupation which serves to objectify women cannot be hailed as progress.
Consider this book called “I’m Glad I’m a Girl, I’m Glad I’m a Boy”. (click on the link for more pages from this book).
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Jane is a long time romance reader whose passion is, you guessed it, reading. She's currently loving contemporary authors like Sarah Mayberry and Kristan Higgins but her first love will always be the historical. Some of her old time favorites are Amanda Quick and Johanna Lindsey and some of the new favorites are Sherry Thomas, Joanna Bourne and Claudia Dain.
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I remember that book! Wow am I old!
But as to the stripping. If it’s part of loving, private foreplay, then fine. Otherwise, I don’t think it’s good for anyone, empowering or not. Sex is for lovers, not for powerplays by either gender,IMHO.
Leah
Other, as in, it’s not inherently empowering or disempowering. It depends on the context–many men and women are of their own free will stripping or otherwise engaged in the sex industry, whereas other are coerced and/or forced into the sex industry. Yes/no/conflicted is too much of a simplification of the problem.
Stripping is a job women can and do freely chose to do. I don’t see any reason to either condemn or celebrate it. (”other”).
The problem is really that women are still made to feel that they have to prove themselves. Does stripping empower women? Does becoming a police officer, fire figher or corporate CEO (traditionally male jobs) empower women?
The real power comes from within, if you can look inside yourself and be happy with what you find, content in the person you are, thats real empowerment.
Leaving aside the question of the objectification of women, if the stripping is taking place at a club like the one described in an article I read in the Guardian, then it certainly does not seem as though the woman is particularly “in control”:
sex services are a legitimate way to make money. Who am *I* to tell some other woman how she can, or can not, make a living? no one. If we are to get out from under the blanket of paternalism, that means I have to trust that other women can make their own decisions, all by their lonesome (and replacing paternalism with maternalism is not progress). Even if I don’t like stipping or prostituion, or whatever other sex services, that’s MY opinion, which I don’t feel I can impose on other women. The bottom line is: it’s not body or my life and I don’t get to tell others how to use it or live it.
edited to add: I chose Other
I’ve done it — strip, that is — at a time when I really needed the money. Very sleazy club. It was only a one-night amateur competition, which I won, but I’d hardly call the experience empowering. It was a way to earn some coin.
Any person, female or male, who feels empowered through sexual activity or self-display is sorely deluded and likely in need of some counseling. These experiences are disempowering. Duh. Becoming a stripper or escort or prostitute is the equivalent of turning yourself into an easily replaceable commodity devoid of any real worth. If you can accept that and be content with the money, you’re mentally sound. But a desire to have hormonal power over others is pretty damned screwy. All the glorifying blab in the world won’t turn that kind of “power” into a genuinely admirable accomplishment.
I consider it a job. Period. I don’t judge any females or males that do this for a living, many are just looking for extra income. Empowering? I seriously doubt it.
My experience with women who were employed with various aspects of the sex trade leads me to believe that not only is it not empowering, it’s actually exploitative. There’s a reason why so many of these women have prior history of sexual abuse and rape. Unfortunately, we have a tendency to seek out that which is familiar to us, thus, they continue their own abuse.
I think the idea of stripping as foreplay (for both sexes actually) is nice but not so much on the empowerment when it is for the general public (for both sexes actually).
So, I answered “other” as I’m not at all conflicted – time and place is all I’m sayin’.
I chose “conflicted” because it all depends. A few years ago a I read a book by Lily Burana called Strip City: A Stripper’s Farewell Journey Across America, and I think it really sets out what a complicated issue stripping is in terms female empowerment. At the time Burana had recently become engaged, and before she got married, decided to take some time and travel across country working as a stripper, something she had left behind several years ago. I can’t remember exactly why she decided this was something she needed to do before she got married. The writer herself seems to be in a good place, but there is no doubt that not all of the women in the book are. As I said, it’s been a few years since I read it, but I remember that by the end of the book I had a much less positive or neutral view of stripping than I did at the beginning or middle, and I don’t really think that was Burana’s intention.
I voted other.
I used to say that it wasn’t empowering. And then I became friends with a woman who stripped to put herself through college, and my opinion changed. I think that perhaps on a large scale, a woman stripping for money is both conforming (in the sense that a woman is supporting herself via displaying her body) but also subversive (a woman is earning money by using an asset at her disposal, and money is a symbol of power and autonomy in our culture, and that she is asserting her right to make her own choices good or bad).
The issue that I have the toughest time looking at objectively is prostitution. Because the reasons why I think that stripping can be empowering should apply to prostitution, but I get hung up on my own personal feelings about sex. But ultimately I respect the ability of other people to make their own choices, whether or not I would make their choices myself. To me, that’s empowering.
People do demeaning jobs because they need the money. How does that make the job any less demeaning?
Yes but what makes it more demeaning than any other crappy job?
Also, stripping jobs vary just like retail or sales jobs do. I doubt every single one is demeaning.