Aug 18 2008
Blogger M has launched a blog plea for help. She wants to be married and not because she can’t handle a drill or open her own doors or that she is afraid of being independent. It sounds like she wants someone to share her life with her. Isn’t the what romances are about? The best ones, in my opinion, are two adults who want to share their life with someone else, not because their lives are empty without another.
Her description of what she wants (and isn’t that hard to articulate) is really wonderful:
I no longer want someone just to be there; I want someone to lead when I start to forget where I’m going and to make me laugh when I’m taking life too seriously. I want someone who isn’t afraid to tell the truth, even if it makes me cry. I want someone who can admit when he’s wrong so that he and we will always be able to grow. I want someone to sit in the dark with- no words necessary. I want someone who isn’t afraid to drop everything and go anywhere. I want someone who will not settle for mediocre, for almost, for halfway. I want someone who doesn’t give up and won’t take no for an answer (unless it’s me saying it). I want someone who isn’t afraid to sneak in the back door at a party we weren’t invited to. I want someone to present a different angle at life, at art, at music, at politics (mmm-. let’s not get too crazy). I want someone to help me decide what is or isn’t best for my child; someone to balance the scales so that my daughter isn’t a mini replica of myself, regurgitating all my own opinions and attitudes towards the world. I want someone to teach me things I would have never thought to learn. I want someone to get lost with, to grow with, to discover with.
I particularly liked the line about the balance. I hope that authors, when they write their books about love and happy ever after, know the answer to the why question. Via Teleread.org.